Conflict and Infidelity Recovery
Discouraged but not defeated
When Rick* and Gina* came to me for therapy, they were on the verge of divorce.
For years, their marriage had seemed a picture of perfection to their friends and family. But behind closed doors, the conflict and tension were never-ending. All they did was bicker, belittle, and blame each other. Then Rick made the biggest mistake of his life…
Every day since Rick had cheated on Gina, he had been overwhelmed by shame and guilt. When he finally came clean, he begged her to forgive him. That had been months ago. Since then, he’d come to expect to be attacked, criticized, and judged anytime they were together.
It gutted him to see the pain and insecurity in her eyes. He’d hurt her so deeply and was terrified she’d leave him. She wanted to save the marriage, too, but she couldn’t control her feelings of rage and rejection. Every time she looked at him, she felt physically ill.
At their last session after completing therapy, Rick told me, “I never thought we could get through this. I can say with absolute certainty that if we hadn’t come to therapy, we would be divorced by now.”
How will you ever get past this?
When people come to therapy to recover from conflict or infidelity, they’re skeptical. They want to heal from what’s happened, but it seems unimaginable.
The answer is a resounding “YES!”
I’ve worked with many couples who have not only healed and overcome conflict and infidelity, but through the process, entered into a deeper relationship with each other more than they ever thought possible.
And you can, too.
A pathway to recovery
You can’t change your past – but you CAN change your future.
As you learn to become responsive, rather than reactive, to one another, the pathway opens to allow you to rediscover your love and commitment.
Healing your relationship has to do with learning to own and express your feelings in ways that draw you closer to one another.
Love isn’t just a mystical combination of romance and sentiment. There is a predictable and powerful science behind creating a secure, lasting attachment between people.
And we’ll utilize this deeper understanding of human connection to rescue your relationship.
Stronger on the other side
Despite our culture’s focus on sexual fulfillment and experimentation with changing partners, research indicates that we’re wired for monogamy.
The emotional safety required to develop deep and secure attachment is almost impossible to achieve outside of a committed and exclusive relationship.
Just as a bone is stronger where it’s been broken and healed, couples who choose faithfulness, forgiveness, and a future together can forge stronger emotional bonds than ever before.
The sacrifice and commitment you give to each other in the aftermath of conflict or infidelity will enable you to rescue your most valuable treasure – your relationship with your partner.
Rebuilding is worth the effort
Together, you can do it!
Call me at (832) 492-5068 and begin the journey toward healing!
*Names changed to preserve client confidentiality